Tools & Quizzes

What these quizzes are, and what they are not

The four quizzes on this page are reflection tools. They ask about how you like to give and receive affection, what you need from a partner, how you feel about your sexual health habits, and how you tend to connect. Your answers produce a short summary and some prompts for conversation. They are not psychological assessments, they are not validated clinical instruments, and they cannot tell you whether a relationship will work.

Love Language Finder

The idea of five love languages, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch, comes from Gary Chapman's 1992 book The 5 Love Languages. It is popular because it gives couples simple words for what makes them feel cared for. Research has found less support for the strong claim that partners must match languages to be satisfied. A 2024 review in Current Directions in Psychological Science concluded that the evidence for the core assumptions is limited, and suggested that people generally benefit from receiving all forms of care. Treat your result as a starting point for asking a partner what they appreciate, not a rule.

Relationship Compatibility Quiz

This quiz touches on themes that relationship research does consider important, such as how partners handle conflict, how they respond to each other's bids for attention, and whether their expectations about time together, money and family line up. The Gottman Institute's research on couples, for example, highlights how partners turn toward each other in small everyday moments. No quiz can capture the full picture of two people, so use the result to open a conversation.

Sexual Health Self-Assessment

This check-in asks about testing, contraception, vaccination, communication with partners and when you last saw a clinician. It reflects public health guidance. The CDC recommends that all adults and adolescents aged 13 to 64 be tested for HIV at least once, and recommends more frequent STI testing for some groups depending on age and risk. The HPV vaccine is recommended routinely at ages 11 to 12 and can be given through age 26, with shared decision-making for some adults up to 45. Your answers are not sent to a clinician and the quiz cannot diagnose anything. If you have symptoms or concerns, a doctor, sexual health clinic or Planned Parenthood health center is the right next step.

Intimacy Style Finder

Intimacy is broader than sex. Many researchers and therapists describe emotional, intellectual, experiential and physical forms of closeness. This quiz helps you notice which forms you value most right now, which can change over time and across relationships.

Privacy

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When to talk to a professional

If quiz topics bring up distress, past trauma, persistent pain during sex, or concerns about safety in a relationship, consider speaking with a licensed therapist or a clinician. AASECT, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, maintains a directory of certified professionals. If you are in danger, contact local emergency services. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available at 1-800-799-7233.

Sources: CDC: STI screening recommendations; CDC: HPV vaccine recommendations; Impett, Park and Muise (2024), Popular psychology through a scientific lens: love languages; AASECT: Find a professional; National Domestic Violence Hotline.